Instant Message Flirting: How to Tell a Girl Likes You Online and Through Text Messages

Written by John from LivingWithBalls

With the advances in technology over the years, the mediums for flirting have changed. No longer do you have to meet in person or make a phone call to flirt. Thanks to instant messaging, text messaging and social networking sites, it’s easier than ever to charm a girl.

In fact, the first time I contacted my fiancé after we met was through Facebook. Most of our contact early on was through either Facebook or AOL Instant Messenger. These tools are great for guys like me, who are usually too pussy to actually pick up the phone to talk to a girl.

Instant messaging has introduced new methods of flirting. However, many guys, such as myself have trouble picking up on flirting when it’s in person. It’s even harder to pick up on these signals online.

So to help you out, I have consulted with a number of trusted women to help you find out if a girl is actually interested or if she wants nothing to do with you. I asked my fiancé, as well as good friends Sarah, Megan, Amanda, Karen and Melissa. Their names have been changed to keep their secrets safe.

THEY INITIATE THE CONVERSATION
This seems fairly obvious but it needs to be said. If you are always the one initiating the conversation, that’s not a good sign. She needs to IM or text you initially at least some of the time. However, don’t expect that too often because even if she likes you she may not want to come off as desperate and will wait for you to start the conversation.

THEY SEEM INTERESTED IN WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY
This is another fairly obvious one but if she asks a lot of questions and has good responses to your comments, than you might be in luck. If you are the one always asking questions and trying to keep the conversation going, then you should probably renew your Brazzers membership because you aren’t getting laid anytime soon.

Here’s what Sarah had to say on the matter: “A good sign would be if a girl is constantly engaged in the conversation (i.e. “brb” is a BAD thing) and writes fairly long, but not too long, or too short messages. Too long and they may just consider you a friend; too short and they are just not interested.”

EMOTICONS
Emoticons are always a good sign. The more, the better. Big smiles and laughs are always good when flirting in person. Online is no different.

Here’s what my friend Megan had to say: “Without a doubt, the wink is super important when flirting over aim and texts. .”

Amanda agrees:  “I do send quite a few of the emoticons as well, usually the winky one, the blushy one, the kissy one or the big smile one.”

and Karen… “The winking face is a definite flirting tool, and general teasing of whoever I’m flirting with.”

Melissa had this to add: “I definitely use emoticons but I’m also a big fan of the exclamation point (!) — This is typically when I am trying to be funny or trying to show that I’m really engaged in the conversation.”

Which brings me to my next point…

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