Starting a new relationship can be challenging for those who have reached their forties. This idea inspires, if not panic and fear, then indeed a feeling of discomfort. A new romantic affair avokes completely different emotions: joy, curiosity, and a suspicion of a massive number of opening opportunities. Having gained experience and self-confidence, and knowing what actual difficulties are, right now, you are on the verge of tremendous and exciting changes. Here are seven of them you should know before approaching any Russian dating website or meeting people in real life after 40.
Fears of youth
From now on, we do not lose anything but only gain. When we were twenty, it seemed that we should get everything and the best in this life. Society and the media promote these ideas, and it is difficult to resist them in youth. The best career, a wedding dress, a successful marriage, and children were the stimuli. Now you can stop and think about what you truly want.
We are freer and more confident
Tired of the race and the eternal competition with each other, people after 40 want to relax and start enjoying life. They are finally free from the fear of losing imaginary opportunities or miss out on a new possibility.
The best streak of life
Mature people make peace with those with whom they endlessly fought in their youth: parents, ex-spouses, their bodies, which seemed to them imperfect. If you felt a bad mother earlier, you did not understand that you did everything in your competence. The calmness and realization come by themselves.
Mature people are amusing
Even your sense of humor has changed. You will never be that boring, shy teen that had zero experience. People over 40 can spend hours telling hilarious stories from their work, marriage, and personal life. The inner wisdom has come, and you became a perfect interlocutor.
Readiness to give more than take
You have finally come closer to yourself and your true desires and feel the need to start life all over again. But you are not looking for a non-existent ideal. People over forty need a close and understanding person. In their turn, they are ready to become a sensitive partner, who knows how not to quarrel over trifles, to forgive imperfections for the sake of the main thing that we value in him. As an adult, you have learned to evaluate a person’s real qualities, and it is more challenging to charm you with techniques that previously, due to inexperience, you could have mistaken for sincerity.
Knowing your value
You will not cry over a wrong date and wait for a call all night. If the person doesn’t respond to you with the same level of honesty and affection — you leave. People in their forties are aware of the boundaries of compromises that are comfortable for them.
New is always scary
You have gone through specific life lessons, learned from mistakes, and still have a lot ahead of us. Being scared is normal. Do new steps towards your dream relationship every day. After all, life isn’t at all over yet!