College is the time of the hook up and one night stand, not the serious, exclusive relationship. As much as some girls want to tie-down that frat guy they’ve been seeing, his constant, “it’s college, babe!” mentality keeps him from making a commitment. Oh, that and the fact that he’s talking to you, your sorority sister from a younger pledge class, and his lab partner. Ass.
Serious relationships just aren’t the norm during your life as a co-ed, because unless you’re going to be with that person the rest of your life, it’s a waste of time. Most of my friends in college who had serious relationships ended up cheating, or breaking up at a bar that ended with a drink thrown in someone’s face. There’s just simply too many people in your age range who are all drunk and horny to successfully maintain a faithful relationship.
While being single is fun and you always have something to talk about at brunch, there are certain things one misses while not being in a relationship. Having someone to come over Sunday night to snuggle and watch a movie, sober sex, and free dinners are just a few things that come to mind.
So in order to bring together the best of both worlds, I propose we introduce dating back into the college scene. That’s right kids, the good ol’ days when a man would meet a lady and ask her to dinner. Not just invite her over for a pregame with him and 12 of his closest friends.
Even if it’s just a couple of dates, it’s good to get some experience in the dating arena. The fact is, once you are outside the college bubble, you are going to have to go on real dates with people you don’t know. Awkward, painful first dates where the guy asks you how many people you’ve slept with within the first 20 minutes. Um, check please?
The four years you spend in college are supposed to prepare you for the future when you’re a mature adult. You know, where there aren’t posters of chicks kissing on your bedroom wall and where it isn’t acceptable to bong beers any day of the year before 9 a.m.
Time management is a key skill they say you need to learn in college, so apply it to your dating life as well. Don’t spend all of your time lusting after one guy when he won’t give you the time of day. Instead, explore your options, be open to new things, and really take advantage of all the different kinds of people at your university.
Be daring and date a variety of people you wouldn’t necessarily have anything in common with. Think of it as going into college with an undecided major. When you’re undecided, you try a bunch of different classes to see what you like. Relate this idea to your dating life and branch out to meet a variety of people.
The key is to meet as many people as you can, and learn something from each person, whether good or bad. This way, you’ll know what you want in a relationship.
But for right now, take advantage of your freedom and have fun. You’ll get to go to the movies on a Tuesday with the cute guy from your Comm class AND be able to go out with your girlfriends for a night of drinking and debauchery on Friday. In other words, live the days of college as they were meant to be lived…SINGLE.