They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder, but does that maxim hold true for? In my opinion, the answer is yes. As someone who was involved in a 2+ year “LDR,” I can attest to the fact that having a distant significant other affords you the best of several worlds. To me, going to the same school as the person you’re dating is a catalyst for slipping into common bad relationship habits. While there are some people who can maintain that balance quite well, there are plenty of others who simply can not. Everyone has the friend who is constantly breaking plans with the girls/guys because it’s “date night,” or even worse – the friend who, upon becoming involved in a relationship, falls off the face of the earth altogether.
An LDR allows you to maintain close relationships with your friends (who will likely be the ones there for you when/if your LDR bites the dust), while simultaneously helping you to find yourself as an individual. Too often, I’ve seen non-LDR couples suddenly morph into a single, joint unit. (Think: Spice Girl’s 2 Become 1, circa 1996). While there is certainly nothing wrong with considering your boyfriend/girlfriend your “other half,” it becomes problematic when you begin to lose your identity independent of that person. College gives you the opportunity to explore and learn about yourself as an individual. It is not the time to start referring to yourself as “we” rather than “I.”
The other factor in the LDR equation is when you do get to see one another. In my opinion, it makes you cherish the few days and moments even more. Am I wrong? Those who have been in an LDR can relate to the indescribable rush you feel the first time you’ve seen your significant other in a while. Simple things like going out to dinner and a movie become exciting events, rather than commonplace, ritualistic activities. And not to mention, physically, things have the tendency to remain equally as exciting.
Of course, this is just my opinion – take it or leave it. But if I could offer one piece of advice, I would remind you that you’re a strong, independent Campus Socialite, and you can handle a long distance relationship like a champ. Oh yea…and download Skype.