Ladies, how many times have you been out to a bar or at a party, and some guy approaches you in a completely awkward, annoying way forcing you to immediately dismiss him as a creep? I can’t speak for anyone else, but this happens to me all the time, even last night for example. Guys, this article is for you. Girls may read it and laugh because it happens to them all the time. But guys…take this seriously, because do you really want to keep getting laughed at? I didn’t think so, so here you go.
1. It’s all about the confidence
While you may have heard this before, I reiterate this because this is the most important thing when it comes to approaching and hitting on girls. The truth is, you don’t have to be the best looking guy in the room. For myself, a guy’s confident vibe is guaranteed to catch my attention before his gelled-up hair and designer clothes (which I find unattractive to all you guidos). The danger here though boys is drawing the distinction between confidence and willyiness. The willyy guys are obnoxious and, frankly, douchebags. So even if you’re quiet, even if you’re not the funniest guy or the best looking guy out there, be confident with who you are, and you’re guaranteed at least some ass. A guy who is able to approach a girl in a classy manner already embodies this rare confidence, so don’t wimp out and text the girl later because you couldn’t talk to her in person. For lack of better words, this would make you a pussy.
2. Don’t act like you’re trying to get it in (Look at her eyes)
If you act as though the only thing you are going for is sex, then you’re not going to get anything at all. This means do not stare at her chest while you’re speaking, even comment about her eyes so she knows that’s where you were looking, and take a quick look farther south when she’s not paying attention. Even if you’re only looking for a quick lay at the moment, then of course you will eventually be written off as an butt, but for now, who cares about that? Go for the gold, try to get it in in a respectful manner, but pretend for both of your sakes that a future might at least be possible. Chances are, she wouldn’t want to be with you in the long run anyway.
3. Have good timing
Know when to approach the girl, and your chances are good from the get-go. If the girl is on the line for the bathroom, obviously that’s not a good time because there’s an expiration date on that pick-up line. If she is clearly engulfed with her friends celebrating her friend’s birthday, not a good time either. I also wouldn’t recommend going up to a girl who looks bored because she might be in a pissy mood. However, if she is standing around with a friend or two, feel free to approach. Make sure to not leave her friend(s) our though because that will make you and her look bad.
4. Be nice to her friends, but don’t check them out
Along with the above suggestion, while you’re being nice to her friends and including them in the conversation, be sure to only have one target. This way, no one is a third wheel but you’re showing your interest in the one you want. If you are mainly talking to one girl but would clearly get with anyone in her circle of friends, this doesn’t exactly make you look great. So stick with the one you’re most into and only move on to second best if she seems super uninterested.
5. Do not touch her
I can not stress this one enough. If you start touching the girl right away, it is NOT sexy. Not only will this make you look like a creep, but you are also guaranteed to make the girl uncomfortable. You do not want to come on too strong, so don’t start grabbing at her when you first meet her. This will completely negate everything I’ve taught you and will have her running for the door before she will ever jump into bed with you.
