Friends with benefits: a gray area in any friendship. It’s when the lines between just friends and someone you hook up start to blur. It can be hard to make sense of but thankfully Campus Socialites, I’ve come up with a few do’s and don’ts for all of you trying to get laid with no strings attached.
DO Continue Being Friends.
Just because you may now have probably seen your friend naked, it doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out. Hang out with that person as much as you normally would’ve in order to keep things normal and avoid people thinking you starting dating. If you usually have lunch together Wednesday at noon, continue having lunch with them. The more normal and friendly you keep it, the less likely this relationship will have to end.
So you guys got it in last night, doesn’t mean it’s okay to walk up to said person and tell them how great the sex was. This is when the situation begins to blur. Normally, you would be able to go up to your boyfriend or girlfriend and be okay with telling them that, but this person is NOT your boyfriend or girlfriend. They are just your friend that you’re in a no strings attached relationship with. Keep all the dirty talk behind closed doors if you wanted to remain friends. Also, don’t start acting like the person is your boyfriend or girlfriend because they aren’t. Avoid any kind of P.D.A if you want to keep your friendship outside of the bedroom as normal as possible
The great thing about this relationship is you’re technically not in a relationship. There are no facebook “in a relationship” requests or meeting the parents or anything. You get some from this person and that’s it. So if you happen to see a cute guy or girl at a party and you want to try and get some from them, no one is stopping you. Friends with benefits are kind of like a guaranteed hook up at the end of night. But if you decide you want someone new for the night, then it’s okay.
I saved this for last because it is probably the biggest don’t in the friends with benefits relationship. The more time people spend hooking up, the more there is a chance of feelings developing. Whatever you do avoid these feelings. Odds are the person you’re hooking up with doesn’t have them back because lets be serious all they wanted was sex without the annoyance of actually having to have a commitment. When you start to feel that attachment, that is when the friends with benefits situation ends because now it’s “I like her so I’m going to have sex with her and convince her to like me”.This goes back to the awkward don’t mainly because you being smitten with someone that doesn’t see you that way, well is super awkward.